Internal Family Systems
Explores the different parts of your internal system with compassion, helping you access your core Self for healing and integration.
What Is Internal Family Systems?
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an evidence-based model developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz based on a simple but powerful insight: the human mind is naturally made up of different "parts." You already know this. "Part of me wants to speak up, but another part is afraid of being judged." IFS gives language and structure to these internal experiences.
IFS identifies three types of parts: Managers (proactive protectors like the inner critic, perfectionist, or people-pleaser), Exiles (parts carrying pain, shame, and fear from past experiences), and Firefighters (reactive parts that use urgent strategies (binge eating, numbing, rage) to suppress overwhelming emotions). Beyond these parts is the Self, your core essence characterized by curiosity, calm, compassion, and clarity. The Self can't be damaged, no matter how severe the trauma. The goal of IFS isn't to eliminate parts but to help your Self become the compassionate leader of your internal system, healing wounded parts and releasing protectors from their extreme roles.
How Internal Family Systems Works
IFS therapy begins with learning the framework: understanding parts, protectors, exiles, and Self. This alone is often deeply validating, as clients feel relief learning that their internal conflicts are normal rather than signs that something is wrong with them.
From there, your therapist guides you through a gentle, internally focused process of getting to know your parts. You might be asked: "Where do you notice that part in your body? How do you feel toward it? What does it want you to know?" A key technique is "unblending," learning to observe a part from the perspective of the Self rather than being overwhelmed by it. Healing happens from this vantage point.
As therapy deepens, you work with protector parts to gain their trust, then access the exiles they guard. Through "unburdening," exiles release the pain and negative beliefs they've been carrying, and protectors are freed to take on healthier roles. A manager driving perfectionism might become an advocate for excellence without the anxiety. The result is a fundamentally more compassionate relationship with yourself.
What Internal Family Systems Can Help With
Anxiety and chronic worry
Depression and persistent sadness
Trauma and post-traumatic stress
Low self-esteem and harsh self-criticism
Eating disorders and disordered eating patterns
Relationship difficulties and attachment patterns
Addictive behaviors and compulsive patterns
Emotional overwhelm and difficulty with regulation
Perfectionism and burnout
Inner conflict and feeling stuck in life decisions
Is Internal Family Systems Right for You?
IFS is well-suited for anyone who experiences inner conflict, self-criticism, or emotional patterns that feel beyond their control. It's particularly powerful for trauma, and unlike some approaches, IFS doesn't require you to revisit painful memories directly. It works gently through your protective parts first, only accessing wounded parts when your system is ready. Many clients who've struggled with other modalities find IFS finally allows them to heal their deepest wounds.
It's also highly effective for anxiety (understanding anxiety as a part working overtime to protect you), depression (accessing the grief or hopelessness carried by exiled parts), and addictive or compulsive behaviors (understanding them as desperate attempts to manage overwhelming pain). You don't need a specific diagnosis. IFS is valuable for anyone who feels stuck, unfulfilled, or disconnected from themselves and wants to explore their inner world with curiosity and care.
What to Expect in Sessions
Initial sessions combine traditional intake with an introduction to the IFS model. Your therapist will explain parts, protectors, exiles, and Self in accessible language and help you notice which parts are most active in your daily life. You don't need any prior knowledge of IFS. Your therapist meets you wherever you are.
As therapy progresses, sessions blend dialogue-based exploration with experiential inner work. Your therapist may invite you to turn your attention inward and guide you through connecting with specific parts. The process is collaborative and client-led. You remain in control at all times, and your therapist will never push beyond what feels comfortable.
Sessions are typically 50-60 minutes weekly, though deeper parts work sometimes benefits from 75-90 minute sessions. The pace varies. Some clients experience significant shifts within a few sessions, while others need months to build enough internal trust for the deeper work. Between sessions, you may notice increased awareness of your parts in daily life, which deepens the therapeutic process. Many clients describe IFS as one of the most transformative experiences of their lives.
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